“Size” Does it matter??

Many of us have spent our entire lives trying to move to a different size to the one we are currently wearing. Those of us of a certain age were constantly bombarded with images of super slim, beautiful and confident people, and compared to them we were always going to feel we fell short of the requirement, which sadly left us feeling inadequate. The vicious cycle of yo yo dieting began, often compounding the feelings of inadequacies leaving us guilt ridden, a sense of failure, why can’t I and it’s not fair! However, no-one said life would be fair! We can waste an awful lot of energy bewailing the facts, however, that won’t change a thing. Far better to channel that energy into making positive decisions and choices.

Throughout most of our lives, it’s fair to say, we have either been trying to avoid having to buy a particular size, often squeezing ourselves into the size we’re currently wearing. Or making a determined effort to get out of the size we’re wearing to a smaller one.

In fact, when it comes to weight loss, it’s often not the number on the scales that affects us most, it’s the size of the clothes. Many people when asked what they want to achieve with us, the answer is to wear smaller clothes.

There is a vast variety of clothing available in all sizes, but all too often, the model wearing them is 6 ft tall and weighs 8 stone. The image of how we expect to look when we are influenced by “the model” is sadly a world away from the reality, and again, we are back to being disheartened, feeling like failures and our confidence and self-esteem are rock bottom. So what’s the answer???

Unfortunately, there’s no simple answer or cure. You could have your clothes designed by a top designer and made exclusively to fit you which would be expensive, but would you love them? The honest answer……

If you are happy with you, then yes. If you are really unhappy with the way you look and feel, then no. The best way to tackle this problem, is to learn to be happy within your own skin, change what you can and practise accepting what you have no control over. In all honesty, if you looked amazing in the clothes you chose to wear, would you really care about the numbers??

No-one will ever be 100% happy with themselves, everyone would, if they could, change parts of themselves. In all honesty, we will never be asked to walk around naked!! There are plenty of clothes that can disguise the bits we really don’t like, it’s just a matter of finding them.

Self-esteem and confidence also come from within, from being proud of your achievements, your skills, the things that make you the special person that you are. It’s all to easy to let negatives influence how you feel, but, if you’re doing your best, then that’s enough!!!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and true beauty comes from within. Don’t let yourself be sidetracked from this journey, it may be slow and steady, but it’s sustainable and for life. This is healthy eating, and the side effect will definitely be…..

A SMALLER SIZE!!!!

You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.

louise hay