The Foundations Of Self-love

Self-love is an aspect of an individual that is often confused with being selfish and demanding. In fact there are various components of self-love that are crucial for a happier and healthier person. It’s really important to love the person you are now, whilst recognising that you are not perfect, but constantly evolving and changing, you are a work in progress!!!

Let’s look at the six main categories.

Self-care – There are various aspects to self care, not just the basics of looking after yourself. To make time for the things that you want to do, that make you happy. That may be hobbies and interests, but it could also be time to relax and unwind. Try not to let the needs of others eat away into the time that meets your needs as that can create resentment.

Inner voice – We have often discussed in meetings the words we frequently use to ourselves, these may be judgmental and derogatory not the words we would say to others as they are too harsh!! If you wouldn’t say them to your best friend, then stop saying them to yourself. Be kinder, gentler, try altering the words to be more encouraging and not disparaging, using this strategy will help to boost your confidence.

Self-discovery – No matter your age, you are constantly evolving and changing, as indeed your body is! There will be things out there that you didn’t or did used to enjoy and stopped doing because of time/work/commitments. Is it time to try again? Your only limit is is you Idle Hands? The Power of Yet!!

Boundaries – It is not a crime to tell others how you feel!! Of course there are times it’s best to keep quiet, but if that means you punish yourself with food Buttons!! it’s time to have a conversation! Be mindful of the words you use, it shouldn’t be a confrontation. This is about you looking after you!

Self-acceptance – There is yet to be a person who is 100% perfect, so why on earth do you expect you should be!! Inevitably you will always fall short of your expectation which could lead to feelings of failure and what’s the point. You are who you are, and yes there will be aspects of yourself that you’re not always happy with and if they can be worked on then try. 100%…..

Mental health – This one is absolutely vital for your self love, if you are not looking after your mental health – who else will!!! Stress is one of the biggest culprits and learning healthy coping strategies and skills will minimise the impact. Managing all the other aspects of self love will ultimately impact on better mental health – which will lead to a happier and healthier you!!!

There are so many helpful and supportive posts on our website, as well as running our weekly meetings. if you need advice/support/motivation or inspiration simply search the categories, there’s sure to be one that will tick all your boxes.

Be healthy and take care of yourself, but be happy with the beautiful things that make you, you.

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